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Thus if the middle man allows himself to be pulled out of the center and takes a side of one of the partners then he will become more closer friend to one of the partners and he will become the enemy of the other one. In this situation he is no more a middle man and then these 3 people would need another middle man.
But even though the middle man doesn't take on the side of any of the partners it doesn't mean that he will not be accused by one or both of the partners that he is not neutral. The reason for it is that the conflict started and got more complicated because the partners have allowed their ego and the mind systems to take the control over them and they are not able to see the reality as it is but instead they see it through the filter of their egos. And thus in that state it is very easy to interpret and judge behavior of the middle man as being directed to favor one of the partners. And this comes from the point that the partners don't really want the middle man to assist them to find the solution but instead they are intending to pull him to their side and find the proof that their ego is real and right. But if the ego cannot get what it wants then it looks and interprets the behavior of the middle man as negative and being directed against it. And thus the middle man becomes an enemy of one of the partners even though he stays neutral.
But it is also possible the middle man becomes the enemy of both of the partners even though he stays neutral. And this is happening when the partners don't get what they want for their ego from the middle man and then they come to an "agreement" which is based on compromise. And this is a big problem because agreement based on the compromise means that the partners are still operating with the mind and the ego. This agreement is possible and it is happening when the partners change their position within the field of polarities and find a place where the friction is not as strong and not as severe. In that moment it seems like the real solution but in the end it is not.
Comparing the new place with less friction with the other moment when the polarities where really strong gives the sensation of relief. This fools the partners into belief that they have found the real solution. But unfortunately it is not the real solution they have not returned to the neutral center and only they have found a place where there is less friction between them. But they don't see it yet. They don't see that they are still within the ego, the mind and its polarities and they believe strongly that they are already in the center.
Obviously the middle man ( if he is cautious and aware ) can see it and tries to communicate it to the partners and he tries to get them to the center and find the real solution. But this is not how both of the partners interpret it. In this moment they see ( their egos ) the middle man as somebody who wants to disrupt the peace and the agreement which they have just made between them and thus they will try to defend themselves by attacking the middle man. In reality this is the attack of the ego which doesn't want to go back to the center and find the real solution and thus it plays tricks on the partners to make them believe that they are already in the center and the middle man is somebody who wants to destroy it.
And in this way the middle man becomes the enemy number one on the list of the partners even though he stays all the time neutral.
To be continued...