I am catching up with posting online my articles.
So today my friend called me and told me that he wants to come to see me. And so he came soon after. He sat on the sofa and he communicated me that he decided to quit our friendship and keep away from me. In reality this was not a communication as such. It was rather a statement. I as surprised to hear it. But then because he did something like this in the past ( but without really stating this to me ) so I accepted it without any intention to enter into discussion and trying to find out why. It was clear that he did not want to keep friendship with me anymore and so I let him go.
When he left I asked myself question of why he did it. In reality we did not have any conflict as such. He may not completely like my way of being and behaving but apart from this there was nothing serious. Anyway I accept this exit but I am still asking myself why and what has provoked this decision in him. Thus I remember that once he told me that he isolated himself from me in the past because being "next to me" makes him hurt. But obviously it looks like this "hurt" feeling is still there. And obviously I am activating something in him which is being supressed. And because he does not want to face it and transform but instead he is trying to supress it more so it hurts him. I know that he has got a history of supressing things inside of him for a very long time and so this would be very probable explanation of his behaviour and decision.
So what now ?
Well... he will not contact me and I will not contact him. Most probably he is going to feel better sooner or later as he will supress the things and the symptoms will "disappear". Unfortunately this feeling good is not going to be permanent. It is simply because he does not solve the cause of the problem but he is trying to cover it with some dust to not see it and not feel it. But unfortunately this problem is going to grow under this dust and at some point in time he will have to face the consequences of it. Though the pain is going to be much stronger. I am not wishing him to experience all of it. But this is the law of the universe and he is not exempted from it. Neither you nor me. And thus if you ( or I ) do it then you will have to face the consequences. The only way to avoid is to stand up and do the transformation.