I am catching up with posting online my articles.
Anyway later I told him to write down all other possible solutions which he thought of already in the past and then be creative and try to think of other possibilities. And so he did. Of course some of them were utter utopia but nevertheless we did the "brain storm" and we explored possibility without limiting ourselves. This thing with putting the limits within our mind without investigating the facts has prevented many people from solving many serious problems with simple "home-made" methods.
Thus In the end my friend came up with 4 solutions. Out of these 4 there was one which was most feasible. And then he started to analyse and look into this option in more details. Once he was exploring this option in details then came something new and when he wrote it down on the paper he smiled and his started to shine.
Cool !!! We have got something within this "helpless situation". And as I said before... his case was very similar to other people. He thought about this situation in the past but underestimated it and he ignored it.
I saw my friend being "self-empowered" ( through his decision ) and so I left and I went home.
Today I got a phone call from him. He was distressed and he started to have pains in the body in one specific point which we already looked at 2 weeks ago. So it looks like this process will not go so easy for him. But it is not that the process itself is difficult. It is him who makes it difficult.
Within this whole situation I realise that my friendship is at stake. It is simply because if my friend falls back and he does not transform his fears and ego then most probably he will turn against me and put the blame on me for disturbing his "peace" which he had before. Of course this peace was achieved through suppression but this is how ago interprets it. If he does not turn against me then he most probably would feel uncomfortable in my presence as he would feel the "pressure" from me and he would keep far from me.
Anyway we will see how it all goes. I know what I do my best and according to the principle of what is best for all.