I am catching up with posting online my articles.
Today a friend of mine has told me that he saw my ex-partner. And this made me to start to think about it.
You'll know... when I finish my relationships I usually try to keep some kind of contact as friends. Though because this particular relationship did not end up too good so I did not have any contact with my ex since we broke up. And so I asked myself couple of questions about it:
1. Would I like to meet my ex-partner ?
2. If I met accidentally on the street my ex would I say hello and would I talk with her ?
The first quick and emotional answer was: "I do not want to see her and I do not want to talk with her".
But then I continued to think about it and I came to a very interesting conclusion and realization.
I knew about it before but still I realized that my relationship was a co-creation. That means that I have co-created it. It was not nice but in the end I have created it. And my partner was the mirror of what was inside of me. Thus because I had a pattern of self-abuse so I was creating abuse within my relationship and I my partner was giving me what "I asked for". Of course I was blind to it then but now I can see it clearly. So if there is anybody to be blamed for it then there is nobody else but myself.
To be continued