This article is somehow related to the article from yesterday in some sense because this point that I will be writing about also opened when I was having coffee in the restaurant and observing people. Thus I was sitting there and observing the couples passing by and wishing to have also a partner ( be in a relationship with somebody ) because then I would also fulfill my desire to be touched.
It is funny that I am saying that but it looks like I have forgotten for a moment that I was already in a relationship when my need to be touched has not been fulfilled at all. So you see... again the same point... we must always reflect everything back to ourselves and make the correction within instead of desperately searching for the solutions out there. Anyway I have found a solution or at least I have removed one of the layers of the problem and I have started to give myself as myself what I wanted to get from somebody out there - I have touched myself.
But let's get back to the point of envying other people who are in relationship. Thus I was looking at the couples passing by and then came another point ( realisation )... when I look at their relationship it looks perfect and I wish to have the same but within this there is a point that I am making it look perfect because I distort with my mind the reality of what I see with my eyes.
Because what is the reality of the relationships of people on earth ? Let's make it quick list of the "sins" that happen within the relationships:
- Cheating with others
- Lying
- Physical and mental abuse
- Gossiping behind the back
- Stealing
- Taking advantage
- Starting relationship for financial benefits
- etc.
Thus how is it possible that the majority of the relationships on earth go through all the shit that I have listed above but still I look at others and envy their relationship ? I wouldn't like to be in a relationship like this but yet I see only the positive and I completely forget about the shit. Interesting... isn't it ? I have created separation by flying on the clouds within my mind where everything is perfect and I see the reality in the distorted way.
Thus is it possible to have a relationship with somebody which is not going to be a hell ?
Yes... there is possibility of it but it will not come served on the golden plate. But before you get to the gold, both of you will have to dig through the shit of the mind consciousness of your minds. And if both of you are patient, determined and disciplined there a chance that you will get there.
And here comes another question...
If you see a couple which has already gone through their shit and sorted it out so that the mind consciousness systems are not playing out anymore within their relationship, will you still envy them or you will feel happy for them ?