This article and self frogiveness is based on my observations and study of psychology and talking to many people over many years. It is written as an example and you may use it for yourself by reading it aloud if you see that you find yourself in a situation like this.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I should blindly accept everything about the person I love because this is the sign of unconditional love.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that whenever I accept blindly everything about the person that I love, than I am also responsible for all the abuse that this person does and which I accept and don't do anything to stop it in the name of unconditional love.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that accepting everything about the person that I love in the name of unconditional love is a big fuck up and brainwashing because how can we call something love if somebody intentionally causes harm to other and I accept it in the name of unconditional love.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that I am hiding myself behind the construct of unconditional love and accepting everything about the person that I love because I am afraid to face my own fears and challenge the points which are not following the principle of what is best for all but instead protect my own egoistic interests and benefits.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that in the name of unconditional love there is a lot of harm and suffering being done in the world and thus it must be stop.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that if my love doesn't include all and what is best for all then I am only fooling myself and hiding my personal interests and benefits behind it; I only use big and beautiful words to cover up my fears and my ego.