When it comes to the decision making process about the relationships based on money, men are not different to women. They do it also. Though the difference is that that they are doing it less or at least used to do it less in the past because of the commonly accepted belief that male should provide for female who is physically weaker and female should take care of the children.
But this is changing and we are seeing in the last few decades how women enter the world of business and become financially independent. And of course because we live in the economic system which lacks money then we will have man who will make the decisions about the relationship with the woman based on the fact of how much money she has. Thus in reality men and women are more or less the same in this matter and the reason why you women do it more often the men is due to the fact that men in general have more money and in our society and economy it is easier for them to earn them.
But I would like to talk here about different point. Why people agree on the relationship despite seeing that one of the main reasons for it, is the money factor ? Again... we have many different scenarios here but we all know that people decide to compromise their values and go on compromise - especially men - mainly because of the desire for sex. There is a saying in our society which says: "if you have too much sex you will get blind". It is due to the fact that the way we do sex, we abuse our bodies and there comes a point where the body cannot take it anymore and becomes sick, which affects also the eyes.
But there should be also another saying: "DESIRE for sex makes us blind"
and this is clearly visible when it comes to the decision-making process about relationships. We know it for a fact that our potential partner is interested in money that we have but we ignore this knowingness, we suppress it, we deny it because we desire sex. We agree on the relationship with this person because we hope that this will change later. Of course there is a possibility of it but most of the time sooner or later the whole relationship fails. The starting point of this relationship is not right but as I said before the desire for sex makes us blind. As a matter of fact this is not that desire of sex that makes us blind because that sounds as if we were blaming something outside of ourselves for it. The fact is that we are turning our head away and closing our eyes to not see the obvious and we do it consciously and deliberately because we desire to have sex.
I forgive myself that they have accepted and allowed myself to be directed - in the process of making decisions about a relationship with another being - by my desire for sex.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compromise may values because of my desire for sex.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to make decisions about relationships based on my desire for sex instead of making decisions based on the principle of what is best for me, for my potential partner and for all.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to deliberately ignore common sense and facts in the process of making decisions about relationship with another being because of my desire for sex.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hope and belief that everything is going to be fine even though I agree on the relationship where the starting point is money.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compromise may values and the principle of what is best for all for the sake of having sex and fulfilled my desire for having sex.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realise that my decision about relationship with another being based on the desire for sex while compromising the principle of what is best for all, is creating enormous consequences for whole humanity, whole earth and whole universe.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create the system which lacks money and people are making decisions about their relationships based on how much money their potential partner has because of the fear of survival.
I realise that to realign all relationships to the principle of what is best for all, I must create a system where nobody lacks money and then nobody would be taken to the point of making decisions about the relationship based on money and the fear of survival. I realise that this is not going to happen by itself. I realise that I must stop my participation in the creations of the system which supports the fear of survival, stop my participation in the relationships which compromise the principle of what is best for all and are based on desire for sex as the directive principle of my decisions. I realise that relationships which are based on fear of survival, desire for sex and with starting point of money, will never be fulfilling and satisfying because they always compromise the principle of what is best for all. Thus I commit myself absolutely to the process of creating new system were nobody lacks money, I never agree on less than what is best for all and I realise that working with the group is more effective than working alone.
To be continued...